I talked to 70 parents of highly successful adults—here are 5 phrases they always said to their kids


The things that parents say to their kids can either encourage and give them confidence, or lower their self-esteem and hold them back in life.

So how do we avoid doing the latter? As I researched and wrote my book, “Raising an Entrepreneur,” I talked to 70 parents who raised highly successful adults about how they helped their kids achieve their dreams.

To my surprise, although it was an extremely diverse group — of races, religions, socioeconomic brackets and education — all the parents gave their kids the same messages every day.

Some of them were tough love, while others offered positive wisdom.

1. “I can’t do everything for you.”

2. “Do your best and be kind.”

All of the entrepreneurs learned the importance of kindness when they were young.

In 2006, Blake Mycoskie founded TOMS, which has given away over 95 million pairs of shoes. His company introduced the “one-for-one” business model, in which one needed item is given away for each item purchased.

His mom told me that instilling compassion was an important part of bringing up her children: “We always adopted three or four families at Christmas through our church and bought clothes and toys that we delivered together to the kids.”

This was always their “family policy — to help those less fortunate,” she said. “The kids have seen this practiced their entire lives.”

3. “If something doesn’t work out, don’t be sad. It may turn out to be a good thing later on.”

The future entrepreneurs learned to win and lose gracefully, and to not obsess over mistakes. Pivoting and trying a new approach was also key.

Jonathan Neman tried to start a number of businesses in college. None of them took off. But he learned about what did work, and what didn’t. After college, he and his friends co-founded Sweetgreen, which now has over 900 locations across the country.

“Even if my dad didn’t think something was a good idea, he supported me,” Neman told me. “My entrepreneurship journey is all about resilience. We keep going. We fail, we try and try again, we fail, we try and try and try.”

4. “What’s the best—and worst thing—that happened today?”

5. “I love you.”

Every entrepreneur grew up knowing how much their family loved them, believed in them, and were there for them.

As I Am That Girl founder Alexis Jones told me, “My mom set this expectation for the household: We love each other unconditionally — these are your people. We always have each other’s back. It made me feel like nothing was impossible.”

The parents of the 70 entrepreneurs all communicated the same message: “We love you. We trust you. We believe in you. We support whatever you want to do. We’ll always be here for you.”

Margot Machol Bisnow is a writer, mom and parenting coach. She spent 20 years in government, including as an FTC Commissioner and Chief of Staff of the President’s Council of Economic Advisers, and is the author of “Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dream.” Follow her on Instagram @MargotBisnow.

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